Most parents have some fears of the day their child will start dating.It is the big sign that they’re growing up and are entering adulthood.Most of their information comes from media that’s meant to be entertaining, not realistic.Make sure your child understands what it means to be in a loving and supporting relationship.“Of course it will probably be uncomfortable for both of you,” Anthony says.“But if he’s so uncomfortable that he gets angry or shuts down or otherwise just can’t continue the conversation, that’s a big sign that he’s not ready for this.” If so, assure your child that there’s no hurry to start dating.Notice what "dating" seems to mean to your child and then talk about it.Michelle Anthony, Ph D, a developmental psychologist and learning therapist in Denver, suggests an opening line like: “It sounds like a lot of kids are talking about dating now. ” If you can't tell what dating means to your kid, try discussing dating as shown on TV shows or in movies that are age-appropriate.
But there’s one decision my husband and I have made as parents that’s decidedly countercultural, and will no doubt earn us the title of “Freakish Catholic Zealots” as our kids get older: we’re NOT going to allow our teenage children to date. Because there’s really only one legitimate–and by that, I mean edifying–purpose to dating: to find a spouse.
And unless a person is young age, nothing spiritually or emotionally good comes from dating in your teens.
I felt called to write about this because it seems kids today are dating at earlier and earlier ages.
"Most of the activity happens in a pack, and communication takes place between friend groups." By 8th grade, dating probably means talking on the phone and hanging out, usually in groups.
By high school, kids are more likely to develop serious romantic attachments.