Dating as an institution is a relatively recent phenomenon which has mainly emerged in the last few centuries.From the standpoint of anthropology and sociology, dating is linked with other institutions such as marriage and the family which have also been changing rapidly and which have been subject to many forces, including advances in technology and medicine.When I was looking for love, I often dated up to three guys simultaneously.I wasn't trying to hit some number in the Guinness Book of World Records.Rather, my goal was simple: to find a guy I could date more than three times, hoping this would lead to a relationship.Frequently, men would drop out after one, two or three dates.In fact a number of women have said to me that they’re afraid of wasting time, while at the same time feeling that time is running out, so they’re trying to effectively compact, for example, what would be a years worth of dating for another person, into a couple of months. It may feel like you’re auditioning them for what you feel is the big job of being ‘The One’ but you and they are people with feelings, libidos, imaginations, and love habits that may be counterproductive to you actually getting the relationship you want – adding several people to the mix just makes it messy.
This term may also refer to two or more people who have already decided they share romantic or sexual feelings toward each other. Who said you have to go straight to a relationship? A couple of weeks ago I wrote about why dating is a discovery phase for fact finding. I don’t want to get into a relationship too quickly?The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country and over time.While the term has several meanings, the most frequent usage refers to two or more people exploring whether they are romantically or sexually compatible by participating in dates with the other.Since there was no way to know who would stick around, I dated as many guys as I was interested in at the same time.