I’m sure it’s no surprise to hear that I get asked this question all the time from well-meaning young adults, looking to set up some boundaries in their relationships.
But why is it that when we answer this question, we tend to fixate on the physical?
Only a handful of our friends knew we had begun dating, but Kevin talked about his desire that our relationship would be a godly example to others. Olympic athletes do not end up on the podium by chance.
We even discussed problems we'd had with earlier relationships and how we planned to do things differently this time. They set a goal — to win a gold medal — and they dedicate their entire lives to achieving that objective.
” The vision of marriage we see in God’s word — the beautiful, radical display of God’s infinite, persevering love for sinners — makes it worth it to date, and date well.
The world’s approach can provide fun and sex and children and eventually even some level of commitment, but it cannot lead to the life-giving Jesus after whom our marriages are to take their cues.
Girls, stop expecting guys to make any formal attempt at winning your affections.I still remember the day Kevin told me what he had in mind for our two-week old relationship. His purpose was to make a plan for how our relationship would proceed. As someone who hadn't dated much, I was a little surprised by Kevin's proactive approach; but I admired it. What followed were my new boyfriend's thoughts on how he would like us to conduct our relationship.We hadn't even held hands yet, but during that time we established some specific physical boundaries. Theirs are tales of extreme discipline, willing sacrifice and unswerving focus.It seems to me that our Christian society can get so fixated on the “physical” aspects of intimacy, that we neglect the emotional and spiritual components that can be just as binding and just as devastating in the end.