There are a few different things that happened during the time I was newly separated that caused me to classify myself as temporarily psychotic, one of those being when I figured out "my ex is dating my friend! Here was a woman who I thought was my good girlfriend. We had gotten together a few times and I had told her things -- personal things about my ex and our relationship, why I was getting divorced, etc. I don't want to be too hard on you because I'm sure you are hurting, and that's payback enough. Well, the first thing you should do is learn from it.Admit your errors to yourself and accept that the situation is nobody's fault but your own. I felt like a naïve chump who was the subject of their laughter. If you find yourself in this situation, here are some tips on how to handle it and how to keep from going insane: 1. Plus, when the relationship ends, the only thing people will remember is how you reacted. DO NOT make a scene and get into a girl fight with the girl. You don't' have to be overly friendly to your ex and your friend. I think, "My ex is dating my friend" is very common, especially if you live in the suburbs, where everyone knows everyone. I remember people in my neighborhood would tell me they saw them out and I would seriously cringe, and then go home and cry. Make sure not to react in front of others because it could get back to your ex and your friend (I mean, your ex friend). I don't think those are the rules of feminism so much as the rules of human decency. That's some Dawson-Joey-Pacey kind of betrayal, and I can only imagine the level of hurt you've been feeling.
When I was in high school, my best friend went behind my back and started dating my ex-boyfriend when I went on vacation.You've been trying to control the situation by dropping hints and manipulating, hoping that people will react the way you want them to and that you'll get your way without ever having to come out and ask for it.But you're not a puppet master and they aren't puppets.Then I missed her, we made up, and I tried to pretend I was okay with her dating him. Hearing her talk about him was torture for me, being with them together was even harder.I was miserable, angry, and felt so betrayed, but I was trying to hide it because I didn’t want to lose my friend. and after they broke up, him and I got close again, and we started dating.For a moment, things got so bad that my ex and I stopped talking for a bit, but we're fine now, thankfully. While I wouldn't mind seeing my ex go hook up and be happy with a stranger, there is an undeniable sting when it's with someone you know. Maybe if we didn't have the capacity to feel jealousy and insecurity, we could all just have a big happy orgy.